Anonymous asked: Hi I'm fourteen years old and I am very nervous I have been diagnosed with pots too. My doctor (well my main doctor is really confused) I only see my cardio doctor WHO understands once a month. My family is really supportive but that don't kno what's really wrong either and I'm sorta nervous and scared and I feel liked I made this whole syndrome up in my head and it will never go away. Also is it normal to have mood swings sense of anxiety for no reason and sense of fear put of now where Thanks
Hi there! I was 14 when I got sick so I FEEL YOU. It’s rough. But you definitely didn’t make this up, even if internal insecurities (or doctors/teachers/friends) might be making you feel that way. It’s hard to come to terms with the idea that your life has taken a sharp turn off the typical path, and it’s difficult to come to acceptance when you’re not really sure what you’re supposed to be accepting. Illness is unpredictable - you might end up feeling a lot better in not too much time, or you might not. Not knowing can be really frustrating, and really anxiety producing, and really scary, so everything you’re feeling is totally normal. That said, people with chronic illnesses sometimes develop anxiety disorders and/or depression because of their illnesses (and some people already had anxiety and/or depression before they got sick), so you might want to talk to a doctor about how you’re feeling. My parents made me see a therapist when I was in high school, and even though I was never diagnosed with anything mental health related I still found it helpful to talk to someone.
I don’t know how much guidance anon’s doctor has given, but in case the doctor hasn’t mentioned this, my doctor suggested carrying Nuun with me. They’re salt tabs, drop one in a water bottle and it’ll fizz and flavor the water (I like pink lemonade). It can help when you need a blood pressure boost. POTS is a secondary effect of my chronic condition.
I have gotten one question repeatedly from young men. These are guys who liked the book, but they are honestly confused. They ask me why Melinda was so upset about being raped.
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.
Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”
Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.
And guys don’t understand why she was upset.
Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.
Anonymous asked: Do any zebras have solutions for thigh chafing? I'm finding it hard to exercise because my thighs chafe when I sweat (fragile skin is the worst), but if I don't exercise then my joints get worse :/
I used to have this problem a lot. Especially as an equestrian, it was awful. Have you tried putting baby power on your thighs? I remember it helped my thighs and bum a ton. I don’t have as much of an issue now because I’ve experienced some weight loss in that area (probably from all the hip PT) but I know this was always an issue for me.
The product sold particularly for thigh chafing when exercise (because runners have this problem a lot) is called Body Glide.
Here you go: A giant squid with the creepiest fucking arms ever caught on video on an undersea oil rig.
That isn’t a giant squid; it’s a bigfin squid! And that’s actually way, way cooler!
Because! Bigfin Squid are really rarely seen past the juvenile stage. And, because we’ve never actually sampled an adult and they look radically different from the juvenile stage, we don’t really have a definitive idea of what this thing even is. We only think it’s an adult bigfin. And that’s cool as hell ‘cause it looks like an alien.
But the juveniles look like this:
Look at its little tenta-nubbins!
And I’d never seen a gif of the video or the video itself; I’d only seen this still of it:
So you just made my freakin’ day.
God fuck you fuck you fuck awful no shit god bag every time I see creepy marine life I have to make sure I still have toes and I will not let them leave my sight for the next 45 minutes fuck you fuck.
this thing lives like MIIIILES down don’t worry friends
is it just me or does this look like a hanar
im sorry but all i see is
Once again, ladies and gentlemen, I present to you: the ocean.
I had no idea there were squid with knees…or that pretended to have knees.
Thanks. It has pockets!
wait. do you mean to tell me that this dunderhead
was in Pompeii when these two idiots
and dont even get me started on this ass hole
Oh and I nearly forgot this one
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH POMPEIIi think that they just made such a big paradox that Pompeii just exploded
Apparently everybody goes there once.
makes more sense than the other explanations.
This is the same man.
This works quite nicely at debunking the “beefcake guys in comics are objectified for women just like women in comics are for men!”, imo. On the left: a magazine tailored for a male audience, showing him in full beefcake-type mode with headlines about how you, too, can look like this. On the right: a magazine tailored for a female audience, which has a headline about romance and shows him looking more or less like a normal dude.
Tell me again how comic book guys are designed for female sexual enjoyment, completely equivalent to anatomically-improbable spines and giant tits with their own individual centers of gravity, and totes aren’t just male power fantasies.
“You don’t come back in here until you’ve apologized to every person in this room, Because you just exercised a freedom that none of these people of color have. When these people of color get tired of racism, they can’t just walk out, because there’s no place in this country where they aren’t going to be exposed to racism. They can’t even stay in their own homes and not be exposed to racism if they turn on their television. But you, as a white female, when you get tired of being judged and treated unfairly on the basis of your eye color, you can walk out that door, and you know it won’t happen out there. You exercised a freedom they don’t have. If you’re going to be in here you’re going to apologize to every person of color in this room. And do it now.”
“I’m sorry there’s racism in this country—
“BULLSHIT! No, you’re not going to say ‘I’m sorry there’s racism.’ You’re going to apologize for what YOU just did.”
“I will not apologize because it’s not a matter of race always—”
Jane Elliot is a champ.
I find it fascinating how much some of the white people in the room resisted the idea that racism could hurt POC just for existing & being of color.
Things you do to yourself: piercings, tattoos, hair dye, etc. DON’T FUCKING MATTER IN ANY WAY that is comparable to race. EVER.
“You don’t have the right to say to a person ‘I don’t see you as you are’”.
“You’re denying their reality.”
Taking away power is comparable to death to the white people in the room.
It took until the second half for what was going on here to really click.
Pretty much this.
Jane Elliot has been my fucking hero since I first learned about her in college. You know why?
Because in 1968, after the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr, she conducted a little "experiment" with her class of kids in grade school. What she saw illuminated profoundly some of the mechanics of power and oppression, and gave those little white kids the tiniest, most tame taste of what it was like to be a person of color back then.
You can see her exercise in action again, with adults instead of kids, in the video. It’s worth watching.
Jane Elliot goes hard in the paint. She is living proof that whiteness/white culture is no excuse not to “get it”. She is living proof that “It was a different time” doesn’t mean a goddamned thing. She is living proof that there’s an example of what an ally SHOULD be and she is proof that it can be done without worrying about “all white people” or making it about oneself.
Fucking love this woman forever. Most of all because this isn’t a case of her taking credit for something a person of color did, either. She aint no Tim Wise.
Look here privileged people this is how you ally
For those who are looking for an example of a white ally, here ya go!
And for where individual white folks may fall on the scale of “honorary POC to bigot,” here is how it works for me: http://eshusplayground.tumblr.com/post/18425785853
I love this woman. The BBC did a special once where she did the experiment/seminar here with grown folks in the UK. Unfortunately, the producers decided to drop actors into the mix to up the drama value and it really fucked everything up.
At the end of it all, one of the behind the scenes people (I think he’s some TV personality that folks in the UK would know) interviewed her about the experience. He’s a brown man, but asked a bunch of clearly white-gaze questions about the whole thing, and she just ripped it all apart and tied him down. It was amazing. Jane is not here for your tired white supremacy, even if the white supremacy is coming out of a brown man’s mouth.
Whole thing is here, link starts with the final interview: http://youtu.be/6MYHBrJIIFU?t=44m34s
white people want to claim all their german, irish, french, and greek roots but as soon as a girl of Indian descent wins the Miss America pageant she’s not American shut all of the fucking way up
this white person thinks miss america is a fucking badass. Stop generalizing.
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